January 2010 Face of a Foster Care Graduate – Edna Brady

January 12, 2010

Our January feature comes to us from Maryland.  She is the mother of 3, a strong believer in attending church and a dedicated animal shelter volunteer.   Please welcome Edna…….

Name: Edna Brady

State: Maryland

Occupation:  Federal Servant

Favorite source of inspiration:  Enjoys reading all kinds of inspirational stories and loves the movies Pay it Forward and Remember the Titans

Edna Brady

Edna Brady

My name is Edna Brady.  I was in foster care from 18 months old to almost 18 years old.  I was in four different foster homes.  The last one I was in for 11 years.  I have five biological sisters (one deceased) and three biological brothers and one foster brother who I still consider a brother.

Even though my last foster father was a pedophile, he did make sure we went to church every Sunday.  I believe going to that church consistently, gave me a foundation of lifetime friends and mentors.  I still keep in touch with my Sunday School teachers.  Until recently, I never told anyone that my foster father was a pedophile and that his wife just accepted it.  I know part of me knew that I wouldn’t be believed and that I would be left in their care.

I felt a tremendous amount of shame and I was always embarrassed when a social worker came to school to pick me up for my monthly visits with my mom.  I felt like I was being hauled off to jail or something.  It made me stand out from the rest of the class.

When most teenagers found sanctuary in drugs and alcohol, I was reading books.  I don’t really know why I consistently said no to drugs.  It’s just something I didn’t want to do.  I did well in high school, being on the honor roll most of the time.  I graduated high school in 1979 at the age of 17.  The summer that I graduated high school, I worked at the high school until I went to nursing school in September.  While working at the high school, I made friends of some of the teachers.  I still keep in touch with them and visit them occasionally. I didn’t do well in nursing school.  I was so shy with everybody.  I was in a very strange environment and I didn’t have the support of family like the rest of my classmates.  If I had gone back to nursing school several years later, I believe that I would have done well.  I stayed in nursing school for 3 months.  After leaving nursing school my high school guidance counselor advised me to go in the military.  We spoke to a marine recruiter and I joined the marines at 18 years of age.  I currently have 23 years of federal service, including almost 2 years in the marines.

I have 3 children of whom I am very proud.  None of them have ever done drugs and they rarely drink alcohol.  My oldest daughter is a Staff Sergeant in the Air Force.  My youngest daughter is disabled and is doing well in an adult day program.  My son graduated from an automotive diesel college and is a diesel mechanic.

What I hope sharing my story will accomplish

I really hope this is an inspiration to those who are currently in foster care.  There really is a light at the end of the tunnel.  If there is any advice I could give to a foster child it would be  the three “Rs”.  Read, Reach out to others and Respect themselves.  What I mean by reach out to others is to accept the friendship of your teachers, Sunday School teachers, counselors, etc.  There are so many good people who really do care.  I don’t know where I would be without them.  My Sunday School teachers spent time with me that they really didn’t have to – like taking me swimming, ice skating, crafting in their homes, etc.  My high school librarian is the person who made sure I had the supplies I needed to go to nursing school.  YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
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One Response to “January 2010 Face of a Foster Care Graduate – Edna Brady”

  1. Dawn on January 14th, 2010 9:43 am

    Edna, what a beautiful article. Even though I was fortunate enough to be raised by my biological mother (rest in peace, Mom – I miss you so bad it hurts!), I can relate to some of the struggles you experienced. I am so glad you made the right decisions and am PROUD to have an aunt like you (can’t say that to often – you know what I mean!) You have done a beautiful job raising your children (Kate says she wants to be just like your oldest!) I know I am biased because you are my aunt, but you are an awesome inspiration to many. To all of the kids out there in the fostercare system – NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELVES! One of the major problems I have witnessed with kids is they are not told what their potential is, so they don’t know – well let me be the one to tell you – YOU CAN DO ANYTHING if you put your mind to it – your potential is limitless! It’s never to late to try, no matter what you believe are your obsticles, know that you can get through them. God wants you to have a beautiful life, but you have to believe it before it will happen.

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