May Face of a Foster Care Graduate-Lexy

May 3, 2009

Our May graduate comes to us from the state of Missouri. Her name is Alexandra, Lexy for short. We never know what source of inspiration will come to us in our time of need. For Lexy, her inspiration was found after viewing a movie called The Passion of Christ. Her life changed forever and she shares her story with you…meet Lexy…

Name: Lexy Ann

State: Missouri

Occupation: College Student

Marital Status: Single

Favorite Inspirational Book: KJV Bible

Passion of the Christ Movie

Beautiful Child

My five years in foster care from the ages of 8 to 13 was very miserable. I felt so very alone, isolated from everyone moving in the world as well. I didn’t talk very much in school or which ever home I was in because I figured I would just be moving to another foster home soon, so why try to make friends. I remember many nights I longed for a Mom to tuck me in and tell me she loves me, but my only comfort was a blanket and a pillow. I held a lot of hurt and anger in from everybody, trying to act like I had it all together but deep down I was about ready to have a nervous breakdown. I was split up from my two brothers and one sister during the years I was in foster care. They were in different homes. I hated that because other kids would talk about their siblings, but I would hang down my head in shame as if it was my fault I was split up from them. I thought it was my fault we were taken away from our abusive home. It wasn’t until my early 20s I realized nothing that happened in my childhood was my fault. I blamed myself, but now, I realize the things that happened, I had no control over. I was only a little girl, not 30 years old, which often times I acted like. I had to grow up at a very young age, which no child should have to do.

At about age 20 a devastating and very traumatic event took place. I was left feeling desperate, alone, very hurt, scared, deeply depressed, angry, scared by people who were suppose to be my family and protect me, and so much more. A friend from a collage I was attending at the time asked me if I wanted to go to church with her. I thought to myself, it’s either commit suicide or see what this “church” has to offer. I soon found out it wasn’t so much what the “church” had to offer, it was about what’s already been I offered. That night of May 14th, 2004 was the start of a new life in Christ for me. I realized I have sinned and fallen short of God’s Grace. My sins were revealed to me. I remember as I heard the truth, “is there any hope for me? Will God give up on me now?” Soon after, the preacher said, but there’s good news, GOD LOVES YOU, HE SENT JESUS CHRIST IN THE FLESH TO DIE FOR YOU ON THE CROSS SO YOU CAN BE FORGIVEN OF YOUR SINS. All you have to do is repent and be born again. Hearing the words God loves you was the most beautiful words I have ever heard in my entire life! I didn’t care who was on the right or left side watching me as I made my way to the altar, but I walked with tears filling my eyes as the simplicity of Jesus Christ and His Loving message filled my heart. I repented of my sins and as soon as I did it felt like a human hand inside my heart mending every broken, shattered piece back together. What happened, I couldn’t explain in words, all I can say is I had an unspeakable miraculous encounter with God. My life has never been the same. I am so happy now! Even my friends who knew me in grade school as well as high school who have gotten in touch with me recently notices the happiness in my eyes now they hadn’t ever seen before.

Yes, my childhood was robbed from me, but now I have a future and I’m the one who decides what I want in this life. I choose to serve Jesus Christ and open up a Safe Haven for Abused Children to make a difference in other children’s lives. I want to let them know that they can come out of foster care and do something wonderful with their lives. I want these children to know that their lives don’t have to be over (as they often feel like they are) they can be just beginning.

I’ve never had another flashback or nightmare of my childhood since Jesus has taken over in my life. I am so THANKFUL!

In order to begin Safe Haven for Abused Children, I will need a Master’s Degree in Social Work and Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration most likely. Also, I’m planning working for the Division of Family Services for a couple years after I obtain Bachelor’s degree in Social Work. I have already contacted the state of Missouri asking the requirements needed to run an organization such as Safe Haven. I know I will need to go to college to get the correct degrees to make sure Safe Haven is State approved. I currently attend a wonderful college in Missouri. I know it’s going to be a long hard road, but in the end it will all be worth it. I’ve come a long way already, what’s a few more obstacles to push through? I’m ready for the challenge of becoming a stronger person. I want to help these abused children to know there is Hope (God) in this cold dark world. These abused children are the ones that need the most help and I want to begin helping them as soon as possible. Thank you so very much for reading my story and taking the time to hear about Safe Haven, a place where abused children will know they are loved by God.

Confident and Strong

God Bless You Continuously,
Lexy Ann

Words of wisdom from former foster care kids

March 9, 2009

Be brave child and always remember you have a friend in
this world that knows your pain. But I tell you be strong
you can do it.Dont be a statistic be a fighter stand tall.
And always remember if you want something in life you have
to fight for it make it yours and only yours.Because like you
I suffered and felt like giving up feeling like there was no
love for me.But I gave it everything I had and I won.You to
can be a winner just fight and never give up.

From A Friend
Foster Graduate
Tod Davis